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Introducing ShesThatRN

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I am starting this blog because I am that RN and so are you. I decided the old saying “nurses eat their young” need to be put out to pasture and as nurses we need to start taking care of our own and setting a new precedent. Teaching them, nurturing them, and helping them reach their fullest potential. Unfortunately, I experienced that old saying first hand straight out of nursing school with my very first job. These blogs will give me and you the opportunity to share our experiences with the world, with nursing students, and with current nurses. It is not meant to bash, belittle, or degrade our profession or each other, but rather to encourage, uplift and support one another. I will write on the topics and things directly affecting nurses today, including myself. I welcome you to join in the discussion, exchange dialogue that will transcend nursing and prosper us in every way. WELCOME to MY world of nursing. Some things may move you, make you cry, scream, hollar, mad or glad. Whatever we do, let’s be the change we want to see in nurses and the nursing profession. I am my sisters keeper and I am that RN!!!!!

 

End of Week Recap

I’m sitting here in my living room in the dark except for my Christmas tree lights listening to Soulful Christmas Songs on YouTube. There’s something about being quiet that allows you to put things into perspective. This Christmas I don’t have the financial means to do all the things I’ve done for my love ones like I used to but they will always have me. I’m their gift this year and every year. I have so many things on my mind that if I allowed it, I could be drawn in a downward spiral of doom and gloom. Instead, this evening I’m just sitting here saying thank you Lord for being here. It’s not about the gifts, the money, or any of the things the holiday is associated with. It’s about the birth of Jesus who came to save us from our sins and allow us to choose life over death. I’ve chosen to live in peace and harmony today. I realized after a week of people pushing my buttons and my reacting in a way that caused me more stress, that my reaction is what caused my stress. I have to remember to stop, breath, and let things go. So, the other night when I got into it with my neighbor and couldn’t sleep the whole night, my mind hurted because I couldn’t let it go. With all the praying I did that night my neighbor has been being more considerate and things have fallen into place. But more importantly, I decided that no matter what she did I was not going to react negatively about it. I was not going to allow someone to change my character or cause me to revert back to the old version of myself. I’ve been at peace since then.

I went to the Christmas party with my nurse family last night and had an amazing time. It was wonderful seeing them and exchanging gifts and we played “Chinese Auction” with two boxes of wine. Well I picked a beautiful Rose wine and it was stolen, lol. I ended up with a dark red wine that I can’t drink because it worsens my migraines. However, I will gift it to someone so they can enjoy it but the game and thought was nice anyway. Jordan (the nurse manager) is so much a part of her unit that its pretty refreshing to see and experience. Every family has its problems and they are no different, but just like family they work through it. It’s just a wonderful atmosphere to be a part of. When I got home I was so sleepy I took a shower and layed down. I tried to update my phone because it said ITunes needed to download and update. Well, fell asleep only to awaken to having my phone crash during the download. It was about midnight and I asked my son to try and help me. The phone was stuck and wouldn’t do anything including cut off or on. He said “Ma, you’re gonna have to go to the Apple store tomorrow.” I drifted back off to sleep and woke up around 2 a.m. and went on Apple support to figure out what I could do. It told me that my phone was going to have to be restored to default settings. I was like OMG I’m gonna lose everything. I went on and restored it and then it said I had backed it up yesterday and I could restore to those settings. Hallelujah, I wasn’t going to lose everything after all. I backed it up and it restored all my things. I did have to delete and reinstall a few apps that wouldn’t work, but who cares, I was happy to do that. I woke up tired but happy my phone was working. Today is my nephew Shyne’s birthday and he turns 8. When I tell you my nieces, nephews, great niece and great nephews mean the world to me. They are a huge deal to me. I helped raise them and they bring my heart so much joy. He’s my big boy and so handsome. He got a haircut and is looking sharp as a tack today for his birthday. He’s having a hotel party with 3 of his closest cousins and my youngest son. They love my son Greg, he’s a big deal to them and they are to him. Now, I’m home alone in a house me and Greg cleaned before I dropped him off to the hotel and quietly listening to Christmas music.

I said all that to say that the end of my week has turned out so much better than the beginning. I’m at peace and feeling good inside. I miss the hell out of my mom, but she’s smiling down on me from Heaven so that makes me feel especially warm inside. I miss my nephew Tre who was taken too soon. He and my oldest son Marcus were born on the same day. There birthday is coming up and that is always so rough right after going without him during the holidays. My son hasn’t gotten over it and is still very much grieving his death. They always shared their birthdays together since they were born. This is the second year without him. He is also in Heaven smiling down on us and making sure we’re good. I hope that no matter what this week has thrown at you, you take some time to sit quietly and reflect on it. Think about what you did, didn’t do, could have done differently to result in more peace in your life. I’m going to wash some clothes and drink a glass of wine and just chill. It’s just me, myself and I tonight and I love it. How about you? What are you doing tonight? Are you all ready for Christmas? Is your tree already up and presents wrapped? I’m going to take a picture of me lying under the tree because that’s everyone’s gift this Christmas LOL! Have an amazing night everyone and a great beginning to your new week. Peace and Blessings to all:)

Until Next Time,

ShesThatRNspiration

Ready For The Weekend

Y’all I don’t mean no harm but I’m ready for the weekend. I have the pleasure of leaving my “now” job and going to the secret Santa party with my “nurse friends/family” from my last travel nurse assignment. I’ve worked many jobs in my lifetime but I have to say that the last assignment as an Oncology nurse in Delaware was by far my very best experience. The women I worked with are worth this mention in my blog because they are truly amazing. I went to this specialty because I lost my mom to breast cancer, but never in a million years did I expect to find nurses of this caliber. I mean maybe a few but not all and these women are the exception to the rule. As a nurse I’ve met both good and bad nurses and that simply depends on an individual’s perception of good and bad. They trained me, took their time, answered endless questions, stepped in when I found myself lost, helped when I asked, jumped in when emergencies occurred, and never once did they snap at me or make me feel like I was being a nuisance (believe me I was too, lol). I did 3 months with them and then they asked me to extend an additional 3 months. So, for 6 months I worked tirelessly alongside some fine women and medical doctors that gave me a new perspective on “Holistic” care. To me, holistic care doesn’t mean “not taking medication” it means caring for patients as a whole, mind, body, and spirit. It’s sitting and listening to them, sharing in their special moments, allowing them to cry when they need it, giving out hugs and dealing with them gently when they lash out at you because of their personal issues in life. I watched them be professional and gracious with the care they provided. They knew their patients by name and a lot of the patients would come in and ask for a particular nurse. Why? Because of the trusting relationship they have personally developed with that nurse. I too was able to build relationships and love on my patients. I had ones that would come in and ask that I take care of them.

Oncology is not an easy area to work in but it comes with its own rewards. And when I saw how just about all the patients had such wonderful, loving dispositions despite all they were going through, it gave me hope for the world we live in. Sarah, Pamela, Miranda, Kelli, Brooke, Sheila, Jessica, Mary Lynn, Marie, Anne Marie, Nicole, Kirsten (Amazing MA), Tatiana (Amazing MA), Jordan (Manager), and Dr. Simpson (My Absolute Favorite Dr.). These women inspire me and make me want to be even better than I already am. They come in, work hard, and don’t complain. So, if you ever have the pleasure of meeting them, you’ll know you’ve been touched by an Angel. I believe in giving people their roses while they are still living and I want to give a special shout out to this magnificent team of Oncology nurses and Dr. whom I’ve grown to love and care for. Here’s to you ladies and although I’ll probably never ever find this type of familial atmosphere again, I can still be hopeful that there are more like you out there:) Happy Holidays to you and your families:)

Once Upon A Time

Once upon a time, I knew a girl who was sweet and loving and kind. She helped to take care of everyone she knew. She even assisted her mom when she took care of her dying mother and aunt who had cancer. This little girl couldn’t think of anything more than how wonderful she felt giving to other people. So, she grew up doing just that. As a teenager, she was always protecting and caring for others. And as an adult, she cared for her family, nieces, nephews, and accumulated many adopted children in different states. She was so busy caring for and about others that she didn’t matter to herself. One day she left home to pursue her dream of becoming a nurse. She did this with so much pride and humility. Yes, you can have both and she exemplified both. As hard as it would have seemed to have been she was blessed to have it easy through the hard times too. She was able to graduate nursing school with honors. It was very hard for her to find her first nursing job and it was far from home, but she commuted to work everyday spending many hours in traffic. It was her passion and her dream come true. She has since worked in many capacities in nursing. She has never lost her love for nursing just for the politics of it all. She still operates in her gift of giving and being a nurse. She has absolutely no regrets about her choices and she would choose it all over again if she had too. She feels so blessed to be able to do what she does every day and thanks God for his tender mercies, kindness and grace towards her daily. Hopefully, if you haven’t already done so, you’ll find your love and passion. You’ll embrace the thing that makes you want to get up and go to work every day or start your own business, or mentor/coach someone who’s trying to get where you are. My hope is that you realize the gift in you and walk in your purpose. This little girl in this story is “ME” and I pray that you find yourself and be the best version of that self you possibly can.

Until Next Time,

ShesThatRNspiration

I Almost Forgot

Hey ya’ll! So, I had a long day yesterday. My nephew was assaulted by a teacher, my son has a stomach virus and I picked him up from school, I had a business meeting after getting him and so we got in a little late. I have new neighbors and they had ALL 5 parking spots including the two that comes with their townhouse. I asked if they could move their cars out of my two spots and the young lady, probably around 29 or 30 was very nasty and disrespectful to me. She appeared to have a sense of entitlement and felt that all her relatives could park there and I needed to find a parking space on the side street and walk back to my house. Her theory was I was told there was no assigned parking and I explained that each house had 2 parking spots for which she began to tell me that I only had one car so she can park in my other space. Whewww chile. Let me tell you that I almost forgot where God brought me from because I wasn’t always saved and I try to be Christ like in what I say and do. I almost forgot who I was and whose I was. But this one right here had me ready to get out of my car and slap her. I couldn’t for the life of me understand why you’ve been here for 1 week and I’ve been here for more than 4 years and you gonna try to tell me how things are done. Aside from that, where is your common decency and respect? Her father came out and was very nice and said to me she’s young and she doesn’t understand. Well sir that ultimately means you didn’t raise her properly. But, my response to him was well I’m a lot older than her and I don’t have time to be arguing and fussing over something like this. To me, it would be common courtesy to NOT take every space and the other homeowners/renters can’t even park in front of their door. Nevertheless, I attempted to smooth things over and start again but she was so arrogant she walked away and left her dad out there talking to me. I got no rest last night because my mind was racing and I was so upset about the whole scenario. I was tossing, turning and talking to God constantly throughout the night. I think I may have gotten 2-2.5 hours of sleep at the most because I was so upset. I went out to walk my son’s dog this morning around 6 a.m. and she was coming back from walking her dog. She didn’t say anything to me and I didn’t say anything to her. I just remember my parents always telling me you get more bees with honey than vinegar and manners don’t cost you anything. Listen, I almost forgot but God continued speaking to my heart to remind me not to go back to the person he delivered me from being and allow him to fight my battles. Okay God, I’m listening. Maybe I’ll feel better now that I’ve gotten this off my chest, but whisper a prayer for me cuz I’m gonna need some sleep.

Until Next Time,

ShesThatRNspiration

Self-Care

I was thinking on self-care and how it can mean different things to different people. It’s much like the way we live, think, and so on. People’s perspectives and points of view are their own right? Right, and that is something we can agree or disagree with and still be respectful of the right to have different views. When me and my dad talk, he will sometimes talk about different things on the news and I’ll say, no daddy I haven’t seen or heard about it. His response is often “Sharon, you need to watch the news so you can know what’s going on.” In some regards he’s right, but not doing so is a form of self-care for me. I don’t watch the news or listen to it because it causes my spirit to be very heavy and it’s hard for me to shake it off sometimes. I’m not like everyone else and I’m okay with that. Things affect me differently and the more I recognize the things that disturb my peace and eliminate them, the better off I am. There is so much destruction on the news and it outweighs any good you may hardly ever see, so, I don’t watch it. Besides, you can’t escape it anyway, it’s all over social media and every other arena. I decide what I deem self-care for me and that can be not watching news, loving people from a distance, drinking a glass of wine, mani/pedi’s, massages, or getting regular checkups. Whatever it is you do to promote self-care in your life, just be sure to do it. Healthcare professionals, nurses in particular since I am a RN, need to make sure we do things to release the day-to-day stress we see and are a part of. Make sure you’re taking care of yourself. If you like, comment below some of your self-care tips for letting go, releasing stress, and relaxing. I would love to hear from you.

Until Next Time,

ShesThatRNspiration

Grief

So, I was looking through my contacts in my cell phone just now and saw my mom and nephew’s cell phone numbers still programmed in there as they’ve always been. I’ve mistakenly called both numbers before and I’ve called both intentionally just because. Now I understood that “THEY” would not answer but sometimes I think about them so much that I want to hear their voices and imagine what it would be like if they could pick up. I won’t delete their numbers because it feels like I’ll be deleting part of my memory of them. As nurses, or at least from what I remember in nursing school, grieving has many steps to the process. I always thought they came in a specific order like they’re documented in texts, but they don’t. Everyone is different and grieve differently and at different times. So, I don’t beat myself when I get the overwhelming sense to cry or be sad or fall apart, I just let myself have that moment. I don’t think you really think about these kinds of things until they become personal to you. Then it personally affects you and you understand the process a lot better. I’m still grieving my mother and nephew’s death from a little over a year ago. They died a month apart, but the sting is still there to this day. One day at a time Sharon, one day at a time:)

Until next time,

ShesThatRNspiration

Team No Sleep

So, I was so tired yesterday that I was having back spasms, neck pain and shoulder pain. Nothing new for me because it always happens when I’m extremely tired and/or stressed. I get to bed early only to wake up a few hours later and not be able to get back to sleep. Going to bed at 9pm and waking up at 12:47am defeats the whole purpose of trying to get caught up on my rest. Now, I must say that usually I awaken for a reason like the need to pray or talk to God but last night it didn’t feel like God was trying to speak to me. Instead, it felt like restlessness because I tossed and turned the next couple hours until tada it was time to get up. Of course I was dragging and now I’m here at work feeling like I want to lye my head down and take a nap. Good thing is today is a half day so I’ll get to go home a little early and maybe take a nap before the real deal. Lack of sleep is ineffective for a productive day. It impairs driving, concentration, awareness, and productivity. I hope today is not a repeat of yesterday.

Until next time,

ShesThatRNspiration